Suvarna: ‘What surprises me too is that the children are governed by an inner discipline, by consciousness and not by conscience. How? All ‘do’s’ and ‘don’ts’ are explained fully - and repeatedly! - so that the children’s developing discipline grows out of understanding and sensitivity, and not out of fear. There are no punishments. They learn the consequences of their actions from feedback from others. This may be in the form of reminders, explanations, anger or sadness, in fact whatever naturally arises.’
‘And there is no indoctrination. The children are encouraged to develop their own ideas and trust their own feelings, intuition, insight and perception. Rather than learning manners and politeness, they develop their sensitivity and perception. This is a beautiful way of living.’
Tarangita: ‘My son is now straight forward and intelligent. If I would have left him here in Holland, he may have become reactive like so many other adolescents. That is just a reaction against parental control. Now there is no need to do so. In Ko Hsuan he grew up and became an adult.’
Gopi ter Aerde
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